There are two main approaches to setting a wedding
date. One, decide on a date and find services that happen
to be available on that date or, the second one, that
is to narrow down to a month or a season and find services
that are available. Either way, choosing a date is not
an easy task. Holidays, family and friends’ birthdays,
family and friends who may be away on that date, all
these factors play a role in the choice of the wedding
date. Once the church or site of wedding and reception
are fixed, ensuring their availability on the date and
time of choice is important. Hence it is best to book
the wedding as far in advance as possible.
Most people prefer getting married in the spring or
the summer, but this doesn’t have to be the rule.
Although you might have set a particular date, it is
also advisable to set aside other dates well. Valentines
Day, New Years Eve or Christmas Eve are popular wedding
dates but churches and reception halls might be booked
months in advance. Don’t schedule beach weddings
for early September, as that is the hurricane season.
January or February weddings might witness snow or frigid
People to consider
Once the date is chosen, inform both sets of parents
so that they can spread the word to friends and family.
If the chosen date is in the summer months, family and
friends might have already made plans for their vacation.
In this case, parents may desire to hold the wedding
at a time that is best for friends and family.
After parents are consulted, close relations ought
to be informed of the date. Finally, consult all those
who are to be a part of the celebrations and make sure
they keep the date open. Consult all special friends
and family members to make sure everyone can attend
and no feelings will be hurt.
Culture and Superstition
Certain cultures and religions forbid marriage ceremonies
from taking place during specific times of the year.
Some people are superstitious and rely on numerology
or the positioning of the sun or moon. In these cases,
wedding dates cannot be randomly chosen.
If you are Jewish or many of the guests are Jewish,
avoid weddings on Friday evenings or Saturdays before
sundown. Consult a Jewish calendar before fixing a date.
If you are Christian or many of the guests are Christians,
avoid holy week and Christmas weddings.
Even after setting the wedding date some issues might
still come up. Perhaps the chapel or the church that
was decided on might not be available or the reception
hall might be booked. For this reason, several dates
must be kept open as a backup.
If the wedding is planned for a popular day or month,
be sure to book in advance. Always have a backup date
planned. It won’t be fun to start the whole wedding
planning process all over again, if the church or any
other place where the wedding is to take place, is booked.