Who Pays For What?
One of the most important aspects of a wedding involves
working out a budget for the occasion. The overall expenditure
of a wedding can be decided according to the style of
the ceremony that can vary from formal and semi-formal
to casual. A formal wedding may cost a fortune whereas
a semi-formal or an informal one may save you a significant
amount of money. The wedding planning and the calculation
of the budget are also dependent on who pays for what.
Although traditionally the bride’s family used
to pick up the tab, modern trends have eliminated the
rigid lines drawn between the expenses carried over
by the bride’s and the groom’s family. Similarly,
the fact that many couples are marrying at a later stage
of their lives, has made them capable enough to share
the total expenditure equally. Though there are no rigid
rules determining the break-up of expenditure, a general
guideline can be drawn out based on traditional practices.
According to the traditional customs, the bride’s
family bears the costs of the wedding reception that
includes wedding music, food, entertainment, wedding
decorations and the rental fees. The wedding dress,
wedding jewelry, wedding invitation costs and other
accessories are also taken care of by the bride’s
family. It is again customary for the bride’s
family to arrange for the wedding photography, wedding
favors and transportation. Announcements, mailing costs,
the arrangement of their own attires and programs are
also the responsibilities of the bride’s family.
The church fees, the rice bags and the bridal brunch
are some of the other responsibilities that are usually
borne by the bride’s family.
The groom’s family bears the expenses of the
rehearsal dinner and all the entertainment, decorations
and food that accompany it. The wedding present including
their own dresses and travel expenses are also part
of the responsibilities of the groom’s family.
The groom’s wedding ring is typically the bride’s
responsibility including a wedding gift for the groom.
Brides may also contribute in the hair do, make up and
other beauty programs or treatments taken up before
and during the marriage. The gifts for the bride’s
attendants are the responsibility of the bride and sometimes
a bride might even pay for the accommodation arrangements
required for out-of-town bridesmaids.
One of the most important responsibilities of the groom
is paying for the marriage license. Both the engagement
and the wedding ring are also bought by the groom including
a wedding gift for the bride. Traditionally, it was
the groom’s responsibility to pay for the honeymoon,
although now it may be shared by both the bride and
the groom. Other responsibilities taken care of by the
groom include the bridal bouquet, gifts for the groom’s
attendants, boutonnières for the men present
in the wedding party and corsages for grandmothers and
mothers. The groom may also need to pay for the accommodation
of the out-of-town grooms men including the fees for
the officiant. The bachelor party is also quite obviously
the groom’s responsibility.
In case of older couples, where the families cannot
afford the costs due to lack of resources, the expense
can be equally shared between the bride and the groom.
Otherwise, once a rough calculation is estimated the
couple can discuss it over with both the families and
find out the amount and areas of their contribution
and proceed accordingly.